I believe that this year has given each of us the unique, personalized, and very intimate experience of “self-reflection”…
…more than probably any other year has. We’ve been asked to be flexible, adaptable, patient, strong, wise, careful, and to shift our focus from ourselves to others around us. This global experience has hit each of us differently- it’s true, we aren’t all in the same boat, but we have all been in the same ocean. Some of us have been sinking, some of us have realized we have much more potential than we ever realized, some of us have been hit with wave after wave, and some of us have been safe from the storm, but have felt our boat rock as we’ve watched this all unfold. We are each in a unique and different phase of re-opening, but each one of us has a truth that we are holding onto as we’ve taken steps toward the light at the end of the tunnel. My question to you today is… what’s yours?
I was always taught to never waste a challenge by not learning from it.
So here are some questions to help you learn from the last few months, whatever they may have looked like for you:
—> What did you learn about yourself while the world has been social distancing?
—> Did you learn to enjoy time alone with your family or did it become a tough challenge and why?
—> What ugly parts of yourself do you need to address, now, in the light?
—> What was the most significant change in your perspective during this pandemic?
—> What amazing and talented parts of yourself have you gotten to know better and now need to put into action in the world around you?
—> Who in your family do you need to apologize to? Who do you need to ask for an apology from?
—> What boundaries do you need to be better at enforcing moving forward?
—> What made you proud of yourself the last couple of months?
—> What made you disappointed in yourself?
—> What will you miss about the last couple of months?
—> What will you not miss?
—> What friends or family members did you learn you can truly lean on in a crisis?
—> What coping skills or strongholds did you break free of that you want to stay free of?
—> What coping skills or strongholds did you fall into that may not be healthy long-term?
—> What coping skills did you develop that are healthy and that you can carry with you into the next chapter?
—> How did your marriage do during quarantine? Can you identify new growth areas and new strengths between you?
—> How did your parenting evolve during quarantine? Can you identify how you became a better/worse parent while having your kids at home?
—> As you seek to create new normalcy, what do you want to challenge yourself to do that you haven’t ever done before? Is it realistic? If so, what are some steps you can take to help you get there?
—> During quarantine, what did you find yourself doing most to pass the time?
—> As your calendar and non essential events were wiped clean, what did you miss the most? What did you not miss at all that you thought you would?
—> Where can you change your priorities in your life, based on what you’ve learned, to maximize your energy and passions?
—> Now that you’ve had 2 months to experiment, what is your current definition of “self-care”? How did it change from what you thought pre-quarantine?
—> What is something/someone you took for granted before Covid-19 that you hope to never take for granted again?
Write your answers to these questions down so that you can always reflect on your life during this unprecedented time.
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Written by Anna Collins