How did you meet? 

We met at a friend’s Christmas party back in 2006. We both were in other relationships at the time but became friends after the party. We each broke up with our partners soon after and our friendship turned into love. We got married 3 years later in Fiji!! It was so romantic. 

How did you hear about M365? 

We had been separated for almost 6 months and were struggling whether to end our marriage or give it another try. Our friends told us to look into Marriage365 and so we spent about an hour on your website and googling you to see if we felt like this would be a good fit for us. What we loved was the brokenness in your own story of basically hating each other and then ultimately repairing your marriage. It felt real… we connected with you both. Plus, we needed a plan that would work for us. 

What brought you from separation to healing and coming back together as a couple?  

The 5 TIPS FOR A HEALTHY SEPARATION video was exactly what we wished our counselor had given us because we had no plan as we navigated separation. We were as you say “winging it” and hoping things would magically change. Your membership, the worksheets, committing to working on ourselves – all of it! We immersed ourselves into learning how to be healthy individuals and we both were able to see how immature, hurtful, and unhealthy we had been towards one another. 

What is something that has changed or improved since joining Marriage365 Membership?

Before, we were NEVER intentional with our marriage and now, we will NEVER go back to winging it. Our marriage and how we talk to each other is always in the front of our minds. 

Marriage, communication, sex, conflict, in-laws, chores, date night- all of these things are now just part of our daily conversations so our marriage is never really on the back burner. 

What is your favorite thing about membership?

The new podcast is rad. We both commute to work and now we listen to the same podcast on the way to work and then talk about it that night or on our date night. 

Many members feel lost and discouraged in their relationships. Any advice?

We were there. Separated. Alone. Easily triggered. Lost. And felt there was no light at the end of the tunnel. It’s a horrible place to be. But things changed when we decided we had to make the time and effort. We were separated and on the verge of divorce because we were not making the time and effort. We didn’t have a plan. We were uneducated about how a healthy marriage works. We had to do something different. It wasn’t until we became members, watched videos, went through the questions, and really thought about how we both were showing up in our marriage that things began to change.  

Don’t expect different results when you’re doing the same things you’ve been doing or you’ll just grow more and more apart.