Make Time for Your Spouse: 10 Simple Ways to Stay Connected When Life Gets Busy
“I’m too busy.”
“I’m exhausted.”
“I don’t have time.”
“Not today, I’m too tired.”
“I’ve got too much on my plate.”
If your spouse has ever said any—or all—of those phrases to you, I get it. It hurts deeply. What you really hear is, “I don’t love you enough to make you a priority. Other things matter more than you.” Maybe that’s not what they meant. Maybe they truly are tired, stressed, or overwhelmed. But the truth is, it still leaves you feeling neglected and unloved. And you are not wrong for feeling that way.
Here’s the bottom line: You can make excuses, or you can make time for your spouse. Period.
A thriving marriage doesn’t just happen—it takes intentionality, time, and effort. If you have time to scroll social media, watch TV, play video games, go golfing, grab lunch with friends, read, or hit the gym… you have time to connect with your spouse. It’s not about adding more hours to your day. It’s about choosing what (and who) matters most.
Remember this: when you said “I do,” you promised to love your spouse in every season—not just when it’s easy or convenient.
10 Quick and Simple Ways to Make Time for Your Spouse
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10-Minute Check-In
Put your phones away and simply ask, “How are you doing—really?” -
Go to Bed Together
Even if one of you stays up afterward, climbing into bed at the same time creates connection. -
Coffee or Tea Ritual
Share a morning or evening drink, even if it’s just for 10 minutes. -
Walk Around the Block
Fresh air + handholding = instant connection. -
Dinner Table Rule
No phones. Just eye contact, laughter, and conversation. -
Send a Midday Text or Voice Note
A quick “I’m thinking of you” goes a long way. -
Cook a Meal Together
Turn an everyday task into a moment of teamwork and intimacy. -
Plan a Weekly Date Night
Whether at home or out, consistency matters more than extravagance. -
Greet Each Other with a Hug
Physical affection is a small act with a big impact. -
Try the 60-Second Blessing
This simple two-minute habit went viral for a reason—it works.
Marriage isn’t about squeezing your spouse into the cracks of your schedule. It’s about rearranging your schedule so your spouse doesn’t get the leftovers of your time and energy.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to realize you should have made more time. Choose connection now.
Written by Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in sunny Southern California with her husband Casey, their two children, and dog Hobie. She loves her family, the beach, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life long dream is to live with the Amish for a month, walk the Camino, and have lunch with Brené Brown.
