Stress sucks! And when it shows up, it affects every area of our life

Have you ever been around someone that has hit their limit? They’re not a happy camper. We’ve had our share of bad days from overloaded schedules, the kids constantly fighting with each other, to finding out that I needed a root canal! Early in our marriage we got really good at using each other as emotional punching bags, which, come to think of it, is very counterproductive. My best friend, my teammate, the one person who has my back, I am absolutely destroying with my tone and choice of words all because I’m stressed out.

Here are some ideas on how to soothe the raging beast inside you when you’re stressed

Learn How to Take a Deep Breath

Breathing exercises are incredibly helpful when you feel stressed or anxious and work immediately. Controlled breathing not only keeps the mind and body functioning at their best, but it can also lower blood pressure, promote feelings of calm and relaxation, and help you de-stress.

Get Rid Of Unnecessary Spending

Financial stress can lead to a lot of fear and anxiety, especially when you’re married. Get on a budget, stop overspending, and be money wise.

Create a Bed Time Routine

Before you go to bed stretch, meditate, or read a light-hearted book. Turn off technology to help the brain settle down for sleep.

Limit Your Caffeine Intake

The problem with caffeine is that it has been shown to decrease levels of serotonin in the brain, and when serotonin levels are low, you can become depressed and feel irritable. If you need a pick me up in the middle of the day, switch to green tea.

Get Rid of Clutter

A messy home or office can make you feel out of control and anxious. When there are messes everywhere it’s difficult to know where to even start cleaning, and then you just feel overwhelmed. Start with one area first before moving to the next. Small wins are still wins!

Get Enough Sleep

Sleep deprivation is one of the biggest factors of stress. For those of you who have a hard time shutting off your brain at night (that’s our big problem ) make a rule to turn off your phone by 9pm, and if you’re brave enough, leave it outside of your room. Consider purchasing a sound machine or invest in some earplugs if you’re a light sleeper.

Give Yourself Alone Time

I know most of you are reading this thinking, “Yeah right, how is that ever going to happen?” And what I have to say to that….you can’t afford NOT to create the time to be by yourself. Carve out at least 15 minutes of alone time a day for you to unwind. No exceptions to this rule! Meditate, pray, sleep, read, laugh, or take a walk.

Try Lavender Oil

The aroma of lavender is great for relaxing and winding down before bedtime. Diffuse or add to your bath to create a calming and comforting environment. I know, so simple, but this seems to work at our home and for many of our friends.

Know That Your Feelings Are Not Facts

Negative thoughts cause negative feelings. Just because you feel a certain way does not mean that bad things will happen.

• Don’t blow things out of proportion by going over them time and time again in your mind.

• Try to be reasonable – accept that bad feelings are occasionally unavoidable and think of ways to make yourself feel better.

• Learn – notice how grief, loss, and anger make you feel and which events trigger negative feelings so you can prepare in advance.

• Let go of the past – constantly going over negative events robs you of the present and makes you feel bad. Choose forgiveness.

Think Positive Thoughts

Every time your brain starts thinking of the bad memories, write down 5 positive things about your life.

Exercise Regularly

Aerobic activity lowers the level of stress chemicals in your body and allows you to cope better with negative emotions. You don’t have to join a cross-fit gym or learn how to Zumba to get active. Go on a hike, take a swim, or practice yoga – just move your body.

Listen to Quiet Music In The Car

Studies show that listening to classical music is best while driving. It instantly releases fear, doubt, worry, and anxiety.

Final thoughts

In the right context, negative emotions like anger, grief, sadness, or jealousy are perfectly normal. But long-lasting bouts of negative emotions can stop you from enjoying life. Coping strategies can help to curb persistent negative feelings. We encourage you to start implementing all of these into your daily routine. Allow yourself to slow down, share your fears with your spouse, and ask them to give you a back rub.

Tired of being stressed? It may be time to reach out and ask for help. We offer online coaching sessions via Skype and FaceTime.