How many times have you heard someone say, “Men only want one thing and they want it 3 times a day.” We are referring to sex, of course. In all seriousness, men want so much more than sex. Hollywood has painted men to be sex fiends only wanting a girl for her body and nothing else. Deep down inside a real man wants a best friend, a confidant, a lover, someone he can talk to and someone he can laugh and be playful with. Ok ladies… here are 3 things men want from you!
Men thrive when they know that their wife trusts them, admires them and believes in them. A wife might show her loyalty by standing up for her man when he feels the world is against him. Let him know you support what he’s passionate about. Show him that you value what he values. This adds a sense of teamwork, security, and intimacy to your relationship.
Intimacy and Initiation
Husbands want more physical affection and touch from their wife — and not just sex. So cuddle up to him while you watch a show, give him a big hug and kiss hello, a back rub or some foreplay. Initiate sex! Make an effort to show some physical affection towards him consistently. Men want to be desired by their wives. Husbands want to know that their wife is sexually attracted to him and only has eyes for him. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting him as a husband, provider and man. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important!
Husbands want to hear things like, “Thanks for taking out the trash,” and “I really appreciate how hard you work for our family.” Encourage his great work ethic and affirm him as much as possible, especially in front of your kids and friends. Be sure to point out the moments when your husband makes you laugh. It’s not always a man’s natural tendency to be creative and romantic. So when your husband plans something special, appreciate him and his effort.
For wives: Pick one area from the 3 points above and make an action plan on how to implement these in your marriage. A few ideas are to stop what you’re doing when they get home from work and embrace him with a huge kiss and hug. Write a love note thanking him for all he does. Schedule a time for sex and make it a priority to go buy some new lingerie.
For husbands: If your wife spoils you, cooks you dinner every night or watches football with you, THANK HER. Many women love to serve and support their husband but pay her a compliment and remind her how much you love her. Women will never get sick of hearing, “I am madly in love with you.”
Written by Casey Caston
Casey Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and loves his wife, kids, and surfing – in that order. He’s passionate about teaching couples how to connect on a deeper level and works often with couples in crisis. He’s also officiated more than 600 weddings. His life long dream is to walk the Camino, surf in Indonesia, and publish a New York Times best seller.