35 Date Night Questions to Ask Your Spouse


“How was your day babe?” – Been there, done that… and we know you have too!

Asking a variety of open-ended questions is the #1 way to build that emotional connection that we all long for. Take this list on your next date night, road trip, or ask them over dinner and we promise you’ll start feeling the love and passion again.

  • When you face challenges, do you feel overwhelmed and hopeless or empowered and excited?

  • If you didn’t have to work, what would do with your life?

  • What’s your favorite sex position?

  • What are 5 random facts about yourself?

  • What’s one of your guilty pleasures?

  • What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?

  • What do you want to do when you retire?

  • What’s your favorite way to spend the weekend?

  • To your best knowledge, how do others perceive you?

  • When you come home from work, what is the best way I can make you feel loved?

  • Do you believe in second chances? Why or why not?

  • What are three of the happiest moments of your life?

  • What’s your favorite season and why?

  • On a scale from 1-10, what’s the highest level of pain you’ve ever been in?

  • How do you deal with disappointment?

  • What’s your all-time favorite movie?

  • If you could be insanely talented at one thing, what would you choose?

  • What’s the worst piece of advice anyone has ever given you?

  • How would you spend one million dollars?

  • If you were president for the week, what’s one thing you’d do?

  • What was your bedroom like as a teenager?

  • What did you want to be when you were a kid?

  • What’s your favorite childhood memory?

  • What’s your all-time favorite song?

  • Would you rather have many friends or just one best friend?

  • If you could spend a day talking to one person, who would it be?

  • When was the last time you tried something for the first time?

  • What’s the most embarrassing moment of your life?

  • Do you prefer sunsets or sunrises?

  • How would you spend your time if the electricity goes out for 24 hours?

  • If we made a movie together, what would the title be?

  • What’s better, hugs or kisses?

  • Would you rather stay in or go out?

  • What is your favorite memory of us?

  • What do you feel most grateful for in life?

We’ve got an entire book with 365 Connecting Questions to get you and your spouse talking, laughing, and learning more about each other. Get a copy today!

Written by Meygan Caston 

Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in sunny Southern California with her husband Casey, their two children, and dog Hobie. She loves her family, the beach, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her lifelong dream is to live with the Amish for a month, walk the Camino, and have lunch with Brené Brown.

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4 thoughts on “35 Date Night Questions to Ask Your Spouse”

  1. If you have a ‘list’ post, it’s recommended to number the items as opposed to simply using bullet points. Also, if you are using this with a spouse, you will likely have them choose a number, and instead of having to count through 35 different bullet points, using a number would make it much easier. Just common sense, well for me at least.

    1. Recommended by who? You missed the point of this whole thing to begin with! They are random questions to get a conversation going, you may not even get through 5 in a night with your spouse. It’s not about “having to count through 35 different bullet points”

  2. You missed the point! I tell my spouse a number to choose and it’s much easier to see the number instead of count down 20 bullet points lol.

  3. Thanks for these date night questions. Regardless of bullet points or numbers, I appreciate having some good ideas to spark meaningful conversation with my wife. I didn’t love them all but I picked out a bunch that I did love and brought them to date night. I love the depth these kinds of questions help create in our conversations and how they get us out of "doing stuff mode" and into "being together mode."

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