How To Seduce Your Husband



This is an R-rated blog post intended for married women who have an open mind and who want to have a healthy and thriving sex life, but need a few ideas to help seduce their husbands! 

Behind every sexy and seductive wife is a CONFIDENT woman!

Confident women are passionate, fun, and creative lovers who want to bring pleasure to their husbands and who want to experience pleasure themselves. Being sexy and seductive for your husband is a form of foreplay and takes place both in and out of the bedroom. Seduction, also known as “sexual initiation”, shows a desire for passion and keeps your sex life healthy! Women who have vibrant and fun sex lives are women who have learned the art of seduction and who are constantly striving to be more confident in all areas of their lives.

So, with that said, here are some of my best tips on how to seduce your hubby!  

  • Shower by yourself, touch your genitals and make noises as he walks by.
  • Men are visual, so go buy some lingerie and surprise him by wearing a robe and then casually taking off the robe or “accidentally” giving him a little peek of your lingerie. Here’s the thing…women typically prefer the silky and more comfortable lingerie, while men typically prefer the sexy see-through type that has little to no fabric. The more provocative the better!
  • It’s all about your breasts! Play with them, touch them, let him touch them, bounce them around in his face, wear the bras that push them up and give you great cleavage, and even play with your nipples.
  • Do a striptease – and focus on the tease! Part of seduction is not giving your entire body away. So put on your favorite sensual song while also putting on a little show for your man.
  • Kisses and nibbles! Slow and soft kisses on and around his ears, neck, and inner thighs will have him wanting more of you. And to catch him off guard, occasionally throw a gentle nibble (or small bite) on his earlobe and neck.
  • Use technology and send sexy texts to tease your man throughout the day! Make sure they are rated R! Be explicit, graphic, and show him how much you desire him. Here are a few examples:
—> “I can’t wait to go down on you tonight”
—> “Who gave you the right to be so sexy?” 
—> “I love your penis in my mouth” 
—> “I am getting wet just thinking of you” 
—> “You + Me and lots of passion under the sheets!”
—>“I can’t believe how lucky I am to have you inside of me”

  • Massage his body with oils! Use sounds and smells that you know he loves and while massaging him, make sure you compliment his genitals. He needs to hear how attracted you are to him… all of him!
  • The element of surprise is one of the best things you have going for you when you’re wanting to seduce your man. As soon as he comes in the door, take his hand and guide him straight into your bedroom. Or greet him wearing nothing at all!
  • If his strongest sense is smell, wear his favorite perfume and also try to wear a different one every once in a while to avoid boredom.
  • Take erotic control and show him who is boss. Make the first move and start telling him what you’re going to do to him and what you want him to do to you. Then have him lie back while you call the shots. This is going to require a lot of confidence but you’ve got this!!!
  • Randomly bring up fantasies! Start by saying,  “Babe, have you ever had a sexual fantasy about us?” “What fantasy do you want us to try tonight?” Be sure to watch our webcast Flirting, Foreplay, and Fantasies so you’re up to speed on what rules you need to follow.
  • Write R-rated love notes and leave them all around the house (unless you have kids) or put them under his pillow, in his car, and in his underwear drawer. Be graphic and explicit!
—> “I had the wildest fantasy about you last night and want to recreate it tonight!” 
—> “I just thought of a new position that I desperately want to try with you.”
—> “You have a choice tonight, oral or shower sex! Pick one.” 
—> “Thinking about you touching me turns me on.”
—> “I cannot wait to kiss your entire body from head to toe!” 
—> “I’ll be wearing ONLY heels tonight!”
—> “I’m imagining your mouth on my body and feeling really happy right now!”
  • Tease him with a photo. Don’t send him a nude picture of you but more subtle teasing images and seduce him…like shots of your nipples from your shirt or a picture of how high up your skirt rides when you are at your desk at work. He will be left to imagine the rest of you.

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I recommend watching these webcasts first:

Flirting, Foreplay, and Fantasies
Oral Sex Hang Ups
A Sexless Marriage
Our Best Sex Tips

Written by Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in Orange County California with her husband Casey and their two children. She loves the beach, dance parties, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life-long dream is to walk the Camino, have lunch with Brené Brown and get on The Price is Right.

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6 thoughts on “How To Seduce Your Husband”

  1. Certainly excellent advice. I loved the examples that were written in this article. I will definitely use them and let you know if they worked. I love your blog, really. I would like to recommend to all readers this small video that I found online about seducing via text messages. Enjoy that:

  2. What if your wife doesn’t initiate any intimacy with me, I just don’t know how to deal with it and I have always had this feeling that it would get better but 40 years later and I don’t know how it feels to be desired by her, and I have had several times over the years that other women have wanted to be with me? Only I’m very much in love with my wife the only woman I want to be with….
    The pain is unbearable when I see other men who are desired by their women.💔

    1. Hi Richard, I’m really sorry that you’re feeling like this and being treated like this. I challenge you to look at the emotional connection between you and you wife..and strengthen it in any way possible. We have a few webcasts that speak to this issue and a few others that will be helpful.

  3. Anyone else read this and get a sense of doom/dread knowing you have tried these things unsuccessfully. My husband enjoys WOW and gaming…even when I am trying to be seductive and put myself out there, he says he just wants to relax (which is gaming). He also communicated that does not appreciate erotic or picture text messages as he feels uncomfortable at work. They do nothing for him anyways.

    I will just keep going and trusting God knows the future. Lucky, I like reading in bed at night. Haha This post just bring up another sense of grief that’s all.

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