Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get nearly enough attention in marriages: trust.
We’re quick to focus on love—how to love more, love better, and love longer. But here’s the truth most couples miss: trust teaches you who to love. Trust is the foundation. Love is the outcome.
Without trust, love has nowhere to stand.
Picture this.
A low-trust marriage is like driving across a bridge with visible cracks, missing bolts, and weak spots.
- You drive slow.
- You second-guess every move.
- You white-knuckle the steering wheel.
- You’re anxious the whole time, wondering if this bridge—your relationship—will collapse under pressure.
You don’t feel safe. You’re not relaxed. You’re just trying to survive.
Now contrast that with a high-trust marriage—a bridge that’s strong, stable, and secure.
- The road is smooth.
- You breathe easily.
- You enjoy the view instead of fearing the bumps.
- You know the structure can carry the weight of your journey together.
The difference between those bridges? TRUST.
Love often gets the spotlight, but trust is what carries the weight of your marriage.
Why Trust Matters More Than You Think
- Trust allows vulnerability.
- Trust creates emotional safety.
- Trust makes communication easier and more efficient.
- Trust allows for true forgiveness and restoration.
Without trust, love feels forced.
With trust, love flows naturally.
Signs You Might Be in a Low-Trust Marriage
- Constant second-guessing or checking up
- Passive-aggressive behavior or sarcasm during conflict
- Hiding or withholding information
- Defensiveness or stonewalling
- Feeling like you can’t share your real thoughts or emotions
- Replaying arguments or past mistakes
- Minimal physical affection or emotional intimacy
Signs of a High-Trust Marriage
- You can speak up without fear of being dismissed or punished
- Emotional and physical safety are mutual
- Mistakes are handled with honesty and grace
- Boundaries are respected
- You give each other the benefit of the doubt
- You use tools like the 4-step apology to repair your marriage
When trust is high, your marriage becomes a safe place to land—not an unstable bridge that keeps you anxious.
Love may have brought you together…
But it’s trust that will keep you together.
Ready to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage?
If you’re ready to go from a low-trust to a high-trust marriage, be sure to watch our exclusive 2-PART VIDEO series inside the Marriage365 Membership.
You’ll learn practical, step-by-step tools to rebuild the trust you’ve lost—or strengthen the trust you already have.
💡Need more help?
Reach out to one of our ONLINE COACHES for personalized guidance and a clear action plan. Most spouses want to rebuild the trust they broke, but they just don’t know where to start. We’ll help you navigate that process together.
Written by Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in sunny Southern California with her husband Casey, their two children, and dog Hobie. She loves her family, the beach, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life long dream is to live with the Amish for a month, walk the Camino, and have lunch with Brené Brown.
