We’re excited to introduce you to David and Jovette… a happy and fun couple who have been married for almost 13 years! David was living in Brooklyn and Jovette was living in Texas when they met on MySpace, and consider themselves blessed that they were able to build a friendship online before meeting in person. Jovette, a Marine because once a Marine ALWAYS a Marine, has been The President Of The Happy Club for decades but recently has been referred to as CHO (Chief Happy Officer) by her friend. Once David met her in person he instantly tagged her as ‘Full of Life’ – and then the two giggled about the memory together.
Get to know them better as you read through the questions and answers below…
How’d you hear about Marriage365?
Jovette saw a post in 2014 on social media and thought this is good stuff! She loved the authenticity and the fact that there was no hiding the real issues couples go through. Their love of travel and their desire to attend the 2021 Cabo Retreat is what made them join because members got first dibs on registration lol.
What is something that has changed or improved since joining Marriage365 Membership?
The biggest thing is that membership has given David a voice to express himself. Him being an introvert he used to bottle things up, and when he would try to say something it would come out sounding angry. Membership has helped him express his feelings in a way Jovette will understand and won’t sound, look, or feel ugly. Living in an introvert/extrovert dynamic he has learned how to communicate in a healthy and effective way. We’re not going to change each other – we’re going to adapt! They both come from a line of divorces he calls “generational curses” and because of that, they want to be the healthiest people they can be so that this marriage lasts forever.
What is your favorite thing about membership?
David – I love the videos… you guys are real! Casey is not ashamed to put something out there which is so different from me. It’s reassuring to know we’re not the only ones going through stuff, and when we do it’s so nice to seek help in membership. The connecting questions have allowed me to process my thoughts, and sometimes I’ll need to say that I’ll get back with an answer because I don’t just want to give Jovette an answer she wants to hear.
Jovette – The challenges with the intentional focus on one another are fantastic… It might take us 20 days to complete a 10-day challenge but that’s what works for us. I also do well with the 3-part learning that comes from the videos – watching the video, reading the connecting questions, and talking them through with David.
We see so many people that are struggling to be happy. What would you tell someone who is struggling to find joy in their life?”
Joy is for everyone. It’s a choice you get to make every day!
Many members are struggling to find time to work on their marriage. What would you say to them?
Oh NO! There was a post that stated “Choose your hard: Marriage is hard. Divorce is harder.” You always have time to work on your marriage! ALWAYS!! If a person says they don’t have time they are feeding themselves lies. It either means they have already given up or they believe the fight is too hard. Wanting and wishing is good until it doesn’t work for you. It’s much easier to give up than to do the work… and the work might be hard but it will be worth it.
Before Marriage365 we were having the toughest time sticking to our date nights. Why? Because we didn’t make them a priority. We used to do 1-2 date nights for the month. However, for the past 2 years, we have had more date nights than before and we are loving our time together. We average 4-6 date nights a month.YAY!! We go over our connecting questions, self-discovery questions and at the end of each month we do our end of the month questions. We want to make time to make sure we win in the next month. TEAM MUNIZ!!! (We learned to shout that cheer in Cabos.)
Many members feel lost and discouraged in their relationships. Any advice?
USE.YOUR.MEMBERSHIP – as much as you can. Plan it & schedule it, after all, you paid for it… and it works. Work on it and talk about it, you may not come to an understanding that day but eventually, you will – don’t give up.
Is there anything else you would like to share with other members?
To say “my marriage is fine” is a lie. If you can’t hang out with your spouse, your marriage is NOT fine! We’re not looking to be perfect, we’re just looking to have a good time and enjoy one another. There is ALWAYS room for growth… all you have to do is be willing and open to making time for it.
We get to reap the rewards of the hard work and time we’ve put in. Our divorces motivate us to keep making time for our marriage and our growth.
