“Hey babe, how was your day?” “Good. How was yours?” “It was okay. It was long and pretty typical. What’s for dinner?”

Does this sound familiar… same question, same answer, different day?

Remember those dating years and how easy it was to spend hours lost in conversation? Curiosity about each other allowed time to pass so quickly. Unfortunately, the desire to get to know each other wanes as familiarity sets in, and as the years roll by, so does boredom. Finding creative ways to connect and engage with your spouse becomes an unbearable task in light of all the responsibilities weighing on us. This is where many couples find themselves: living on auto-pilot, longing for connection, but lacking resources.

We were made for connection.

How we communicate with one another is directly tied to the quality of our connection. Loneliness inside of marriage is on the rise, proving that we’ve lost the art of asking good questions. In this day and age, it seems like most of us are far more concerned with sharing what is on our mind than listening to others. But let’s take a minute to think about what a question is. Asking a question expresses your curiosity and desire to know more. When you ask a question about your spouse’s dreams, preferences, feelings, and memories it communicates that you are looking for connection.

The #1 way to build emotional intimacy is asking open-ended questions.

This is why we wrote our books 365 Connecting Questions for Couples and 365 Connecting Questions for Engaged Couples!

This book has the potential to literally turn your marriage around, so whether you binge all the questions in a sitting, or you simply take one question a day, you will see quick wins in your marriage.