50 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Marriage


Casey and I love cheat sheets! You know, when someone gives you a bunch of their ideas so you don’t have to think too hard. Because we love you all so much, we’ve created a long cheat sheet for you that will hopefully inspire you. We can always improve our marriage and in fact, we would stress that when couples become stagnant, it’s a very dangerous road to be on.

Here are 50 things you can start doing to improve your marriage today!

  • Compliment your spouse daily

  • Buy them their favorite drink (Starbucks, tea, a bottle of wine)

  • Reach for their hand when watching TV

  • Talk about the little things

  • Don’t keep secrets

  • Initiate sex

  • Apologize when you’re wrong

  • Take a walk hand in hand

  • Go to bed together

  • Start committing to the 60 Second Blessing

  • Send flirty texts and emails throughout the day

  • Take one of our 4 week online courses

  • Appreciate all that your spouse does

  • Give more and expect less

  • Simplify your life so you have more time for connection

  • Schedule date nights regularly

  • Ask for what you want and need (your spouse isn’t mind reader)

  • Stay healthy and try to look your best

  • Remove the television from your bedroom

  • Create shared goals

  • Volunteer together

  • Offer to help with the daily chores

  • Make forgiveness part of your marriage strategy

  • Give grace freely

  • Listen with empathy

  • Talk a little less and listen more

  • Turn off your phone

  • Go on a weekend getaway just you two

  • Plan and stick to a budget

  • Remember that you’re on the same team

  • Always kiss goodnight

  • Be the first to say SORRY

  • Be quick to defend your spouse’s honor

  • Write a love letter

  • Sleep naked

  • Be willing to have the tough conversations

  • Ask open-ended questions

  • Don’t give up

  • Choose to love even when you don’t feel like it

  • Make honesty your best policy

  • Ask for a redo

  • Eat dinner together

  • Always discuss major purchases before making them

  • Remove the word “DIVORCE” from your vocabulary

  • Become a monthly member to Marriage365

  • Say NO to something so you can say YES to your marriage

  • Dream together

  • Learn something new together

  • Respect your spouse’s opinion

  • Be vulnerable

Written by Meygan Caston

Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in Orange County, California with her husband Casey and their two children. She loves the beach, dance parties, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life-long dream is to walk the Camino and have lunch with Brené Brown.

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31 thoughts on “50 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Marriage”

  1. One thing I’m going to do this week to improve my marriage is schedule a date night. With both of us in school, working, & being parents to two young children (without childcare may I add – we work opposite shifts) we rarely get time alone in or out of the house.

  2. Immediately shared with my wife. Our 3 yr old has taken over our relationship and home. On top of me being diagnosed with cancer. It is time for a revolution.

  3. We would like to know what types of struggles you have in a thriving marriage. Or does a thriving marriage mean no issues or problems?

    1. Every marriage has struggles. 2 different people, with different personalities, interests, beliefs, fears, etc are bound to bring up conflict.

  4. Many on the list are easy…the naked ones…lol but marriage is work…but even when things are good…these little reminders help…anyone ready to give up….I encourage you to try one more time.

  5. Marriage is hard work,it take 2 people to say I do and it takes 2 to make it work as I said 2.the in law should let their children live their lives with no guilt . The in laws have had good live and should allow grow children with their own grown children LIVE LIFE AS THEY SEE FIT and however and to do whatever makes them happy.

  6. Wide range of activities — I would like to live up to such a list — the mere presence of the list will help me stay focused.
    I have printed the page to share with my wife, since she doesn’t do email. We may share it with a newly married couple (3 days!) after I discuss it with my wife.

  7. Marjorie Hilbourn

    We are going on a Christian Marriage weekend in the mountains next weekend and I will plan to bring some cute duds, look my best (at 8 months pregnant) and sleep naked at least one night….haven’t done that since our first child!! Marriage is worth the WORK!!

  8. Be willing to have the tough conversations. That’s what we need to do more of. Sometimes it seems to make us argue so I think that combine with understanding the others point of view. Someone has told me perspective is reality. So to understand the other person better to know their perspective, is important.

  9. Ted in Foxton NZ

    wow…. is so easy to read through and to pass or fail my Wife, but extremely hard to look at only myself and the areas and things i need to change, improve and communicate in, to make the best effort…. i am going to read through this list every day… and determine

  10. I try to do everything on this list. My wife only does a few. I can’t do this by myself, but I refuse to give up. Her? Well, every disagreement we have she wants a divorce, but she’ll have to sue for one if she wants one because I’m fighting for my marriage.

  11. My husband is a truck driver…he’s barely around and when he is his mind is still over the road. I’ve tried the texts, compliments, and whatever else I can do since he’s not physically here. Now it seems it’s expected of me but he does not reciprocate. Any suggestions?

  12. We are doing a “honeymoon” remodel and living in our home at the same time. We’ve been married one month. However, together for 10 years.I’m going to be more patient with the challenges of not having a kitchen or our bedroom right now and appreciate my husbands willingness to do this remodel together. He is a wonderful husband and it’s important for me to remember he’s also struggling with the inconveniences right now.

  13. You got the reason to all that you say, the marriage is a compromise every day. Love it

  14. Don’t talk behind your spouses back about your problems with them. Don’t encourage a negative opinion of your spouse in your friends and family – where you may forgive and forget quite easily, others build their perception off of your portrayal of the relationship.

  15. I am going to respect my wife’s opinion and try my best to make sure she smiles every morning and every night. I will make my wife comfortable.

  16. ❤️ all of this! We stopped kissing goodnight so long ago. I think I will start with that. Getting kids out of the bed should be added haha! ????????

  17. Amazing suggestions! Question – what is a “naked dinner”? The article link isn’t working. Thanks!

  18. My husband and I are currently separated (not legally) he chose to leave and move in with his brother and sister in law who don’t have anything positive to say and have tried to get my husband to find someone else instead of encouraging him to work with me and for our marrage and to come home.
    After reading this I realized that I have tried some of these and even though we live apart I still beg for him to come home. I sit and cry everytime I see him and he comes to visit our children we have 2 children together and I have 4 from a previous marrage and he has 1 from a previous marrage. He says he doesn’t want to see my children only his own. At first he left because of taxes because I wouldn’t file with him right away and now after he filed taxes by himself and claiming our 2 children he now says he left and won’t come back until I allow him separate time with our 2 children. He is a drinker an alcoholic and so is his family there have been many times that he has left his older son alone to go out and drink and I don’t want that for my children ages 1 and 2 who cannot speak for themselves. He has also made threats to take our babies and not bring them back. I love my husband and desperately want him to come home and I’ve even suggested counseling but it seems as if he doesn’t think that he has anything to work on and doesn’t want to compromise. It’s either his way or no way and to me that’s not fair. I also don’t agree with him staying with his brother and sister in-law as they have told him many times to go and find someone else and to do this and to do that. They both are divorced and have children from previous marriages his brother signed over rights to his own kids. What else can I do what should I do.. I admit to my faults and that I am not Perfect but neither is he. This is breaking my heart.

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